Kaitlin's a smad off.

Response to her post:

I don't actually IM people very frequently. I respond to their IMs. I therefore only hang out with people who talk to me about it. I chill with Meagan and Julie because they told me to. I chill with Jimmy because he IMs me frequently. Brandon regularly texts or IMs. So does Alicia. The people I don't see often - you, Nikki, Dora, Gabe - never IM or text me. I see you when someone else calls a social event and I either attend or host. When we hung out it was because you notified me of events or it was shindig season and we ran into each other often. I don't ditch people, but I also don't contact people of my own volition. If I wasn't told to host shindigs or called and asked to hang out, I'd leave the house about monthly. Don't give me this ditch bullshit. You know damn well I was never there in the first place except on request.

I do not live. I let life happen.

That's central to my existence. It's how I operate. How I like to operate. It works for me. Sure, people have been left behind, but they're left behind because I keep walking oblivious to the fact that they're no longer walking with me. It's an arrogant way to live, I guess, but it has yet to fail me. If you feel you've been ditched, find something for us to do. That's all there is to it.

Also, I really don't believe that's why I'm detached. If anything it should keep me connected because it means that to build a social life at all I have to cultivate friends willing to call on me with some frequency. Alone except by invitation may seem like an easy answer, but it's a symptom and not a cause. I was detached before. This way of functioning is a result of not trying to reconnect.