I sometimes find myself talking to a friend who has decided to die. It's not the same friend every time and it isn't necessarily for the same reasons, but my response is always the same. I try logic. It doesn't work. I try examples, but for those to be effective I have to know the friend as well as I know myself, which isn't physically possible. I never really know what to say and never succeed in winning them over to the side of life. I've never seriously considered suicide, honestly. Not once. No matter how bad I might imagine things are for me, it never crosses my mind as a viable option. If I'm gonna die, I'll expend myself in a mad attempt to live. Maybe that's the problem. To pull someone out of that funk you have to have been there yourself. I can't see through the self-esteem issues or the need for oblivion because they're fundamentally alien concepts to me. In this one situation my love of life may be crippling and I don't know what to do about it.
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You shouldn't do anything about it.
ReplyDeleteStay content with life.
wait until you try to help one escape such a funk and fail. only to learn about it a few days later when you're invited to a funeral.
ReplyDeleteits the minimal things that help in those situations
ReplyDeleteeven if you had been to that point before the person your helping is to self involved with the whole concept to except or understand much
just listening and offering support while seeming dumb is all you can do
and it might not fix a person but it normally makes them feel the guilt of not being able to do it then because it would feel like betrayal
meh thats kinda how i feel personally